Happy 9th Birthday Cooper
Wow what
a year.
I don’t know where I should start with this birthday letter. I suppose,
if I’m honest I’ll start by saying that I know how hard the past 9 months in
particular have been for you. You more than the others have really suffered
through what everyone keeps referring to as “unprecedented times”. While there
are days where I think your Dad and I have done well to shelter you from the stressors
of the past year, I know you have felt let down by us and disappointed in our
decisions whether they be within our control or not.
At 9 there’s a level of understanding you have about the
world around you, and while we can try to protect you it’s not always possible.
I’m sorry that you have felt the impact of the past year more than the others.
I’m sorry sport was cancelled because of smoke, threat of fire, flood and
COVID. I’m sorry that school was closed, that you were unable to be with your
friends and that we chose to spend such a large amount of time remotely. We
honestly believed that the time on the farm would be better for your mental
health, and I’m sorry you felt it isolated you further from your friends. I’m
sorry you felt home schooling was hard and that I pushed you too much. When you
read this, I hope you understand that all of those decisions were made in your
best interest and out of love, but also because we were afraid and while
everything may have stopped for you they didn’t for us and that that we did
what we believed was best.
While for your birthday we were back in Canberra it was different
than birthdays before, parks were closed, businesses were closed, there were
rules to how many people could be in a house at any one time; and for you that
meant it was only Liam would could celebrate with you.
Now, I want to focus on you, this is your birthday letter
after all and there are so many things about you this last year that I am so
proud of:
1)
Towards the end of last year you made a really
hard decision not to write Paxton’s name down on who you wanted to be in a
class with for 2020. You recognised that the fierce friendship you two have was
impacting on your ability to concentrate and learn in class.
2)
This year you’ve risked your own safety
to assist others. Swimming out to help your cousin Dean who’d jumped in too
deep off the pier at Forster, and throwing yourself in front of Carter so the 9
seater glass outdoor dining table fell on your instead of him.
3)
Your attitude toward sport. You play for fun and
to be with your mates and while at times the super competitive side of me
wishes you showed a little more competitive nature, it’s nice to see that you
are gracious in both winning and defeat.
4)
Your independence and level of maturity. I can
trust that you will make the right choice.
You’re a truly remarkable 9 year old. As you grow I can see
you start to pull away, I can feel some attitude creep into your responses and
behaviour, and given the circumstances we understand, but we also understand
that these next years are going to feel like the hardest for you, too old for many things you used to enjoy but not yet old
enough for a lot of things you want to try too. I’ll try not to embarrass
you at footy, or get out of the car on crossing wearing my ugg boots, I won’t
lecture you about bed time or brush your hair in front of your friends but I will
love and support you, and I’ll try my hardest to keep you safe no matter how
difficult it is for you to let me.
At 9:
Your best friends are: Paxton Cordwell, Liam Carter and
Lewis Kelsey
You love to eat all the time, your favourite foods are
anything that doesn’t have capsicum.
You haven’t lost any additional teeth from your birthday
last year.
You play: Cricket and League